Insights and Healing with Patrick Moore


Quincy, a Dachshund Co-Therapist
April 9, 2018, 10:28 pm
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a fun short story of healing from my mentor Stephen

Many people have wonderful stories about their animal companions which are sometimes about how the actions of the cat, dog or another animal saved their life. Here is my story about my animal companion, Quincy, a miniature Dachshund.

Many years ago, I provided psychological counseling through private practice in my office and sometimes in my home. One day, I received a referral from a psychologist at a local school district about a male high school student. The psychologist told me that the individual was very resistant to therapy and refused to communicate in any sessions, so they decided on referring him to me.

In the first session in the home office, I briefly greeted the young high school student who sat on the couch facing me while I sat in the recliner. Quincy chose that day for the first time to climb up on my lap, with my help, and…

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Clothed Massage Resolves Tension and Reduces Mischief (book excerpt)
March 29, 2018, 11:03 pm
Filed under: Clothed Massage, essence, massage

Three Parts of the Book Focus on Three Aspects of Safety

(this is an excerpt from the opening of my new book in progress. Please leave comments at the bottom, thanks.)

Clothing increases safety, in numerous ways. This is the message of Part One of the book.

I know clothing increases therapeutic effectiveness because I can feel the difference. I have done thousands of massages the Swedish way (on bare skin) and through clothing. Muscles begin to resolve tension quicker, muscles resolve a greater percentage of their tension, and more muscles in more regions of the body resolve tension when the person is clothed. Part One explains a dozen ways the brain feels safer to let down its guard, while the person is clothed. The therapist also feels safer. When the therapist feels safer, therapy is more effective.

Part One finishes with some practical benefits of clothed massage. The absence of massage oil keeps the clinic much cleaner and saves laundry. Far less privacy is required which may saves space and definitely saves time, because there is no wasted time as people disrobe and dress again. Advertising your massage business as clothed-only may draw thousands of new customers who have never dared to receive massage before, who did not want to be told to take their clothes off to receive therapy.

Part Two of this book explains the minimum you need to do to touch muscles in a way that helps the brain resolve its tensions. When the brain reduces the voltage to the muscle, the muscle palpably softens. I wish I had been taught this stuff in massage school! The technique is far simpler than you may think. Many people are already doing this, they just don’t have the language yet to explain what they are doing. Knowing how muscles become tense, and how they relax, dramatically increases your effectiveness. Too many bodywork methods seem mysterious in how they work, or downright unbelievable. You must be able to explain to recipients exactly how your technique leads to the resolution of tensions. The person’s subconscious brain won’t feel safe enough to let down its guarding, without a plausible explanation of how it will benefit the person.

Part Three explains the minimum you need to be so that people’s brains will feel safe letting down their guarding in your presence. Things like equal-power relationship and qualities you are being like patient, nonjudgmental and curious, make all the difference. Again this is simpler than you might think. It is actually more difficult to explain in words, than it is to be. I’d like you to know how being nonjudgmental, for example, leads to muscles relaxing. Hint: the person feels much safer when she knows she is not being judged.

What’s In The Book? What’s Not?

The rule for this book is, if it’s in here, I believe you need to know it in order to thrive in the business of clothed massage, either as an individual therapist or as a clinic manager.

What’s not in the book? I leave out advanced techniques because you don’t need them. The simplest techniques work perfectly, when you are consistently coming from the right place . What is the right place? That is covered.

Because I don’t like to rehash what’s in other books, this book will be on the short side. I hope you see the value of my leaving out what you don’t need.

 

Is Clothed Massage Merely a Second-Rate Consolation?

I have never seen clothed massage offered on any menu of services besides my own.

Clothed massage is not taught in massage school. The closest thing offered is an elective class in chair massage, which is done through clothing. Most therapists I know who offer chair massage offer it as a sort of free sample, to get people to make an appointment for the real thing–bare skin massage. Or if someone is too modest to take off her clothes, you might agree to give her at least something, since she won’t commit to the real thing. Therapists or clinics might occasionally condescend to allow clothing in isolated instances, when the recipient is too modest, resistant or prudish.

I see it the other way round. I believe muscles relax better when the recipient is clothed. I see clothed massage as the real thing and bare skin massage as second-best. Modesty helps the brain feel safer and the brain’s safety should be our first concern, if we consider ourselves therapists.

My intention for this book is that every person, in every city, wanting therapy to resolve their muscle tension, would have the option of remaining clothed during every session. If it works as well or better than the old way, why not offer clothed massage on your menu of services?

Safety First

When a person feels safe, her nervous system cooperates with therapists and activates all her body’s healing abilities. When she questions her safety, her nervous system deactivates healing processes and activates defense, offense and diversion. In particular, when a person questions her safety, her brain sends extra electricity to her muscles, which contracts or tenses the muscles so they become harder, less flexible and sore. Each muscle that is tense today, was made tense deliberately by the brain quite a while ago, based on a particular interpretation she made regarding her safety. The brain does this to protect or guard her from risks. Her brain has not yet felt safe enough to resolve that guarding.

How Safe is Massage Therapy Currently?

Massage therapy is an unusual form of therapy.

The Masseur shows the recipient into the private room with a bed, complete with sheets and covers. There are no windows or if there are, nobody can see in. The recipient is instructed to take off her clothes and get between the sheets. He steps out and closes the door while she takes off her clothes and climbs onto the bed nude, then covers herself with the top sheet. Then he knocks and comes in. If she understood him correctly she will be lying between the sheets, so that her nudity is covered by the top sheet and perhaps a blanket. If she misunderstood she may be lying nude on top of both sheets, so he sees her nudity when she walks in. He closes the door behind him. They will be alone in the closed room for an hour. The room has dim lighting, nice music playing, perhaps with candles lit or scent diffusers for mood. Before the touching even begins, this form of therapy is unlike any other form of therapy. Or is it therapy?

For therapy to occur, the subconscious brain must feel safe enough to revisit old reactions and reconsider or reinterpret them in a more enlightened way. How safe does her brain feel, right now, to do this? Or does she wonder if he has something else on his mind? Does he? Does she?

Safety is important for all forms of therapy, in order to help the person’s brain or mind to make progress toward the therapeutic goals. Safety may be doubly important when the therapist will touch the recipient. The importance of safety may be four times as important, when the recipient will be nude during the touch. If the recipient (or the giver) created a strong negative interpretation during the attachment phase of childhood with a parent or caregiver, the safety required during a touch-therapy that occurs while the recipient is nude, doubles again to eight times more safety necessary… (please leave comments, thanks)

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Sweetwater Trail, Saguaro Nat’l Park
January 15, 2018, 7:42 pm
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A wonderful way to do “activism” is by using creative arts like painting! Betina Fink shows an excellent example of doing this in her recent post…

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Park lands in the western states are being threatened on a daily basis. The natural beauty and stark intensity of desert lands just aren’t important to some people in power. The land is seen as valuable only in terms of what it can give up for money: mining, uranium, rooftops.

Close to my home are the Tucson Mountains, and the Sweetwater Trail, which still has National Park status, but lots of new rooftops dotting the pristine hills. I had a free day and went to walk the washes and animal trails just off the main human trail. Found a spot to set up and do an oil sketch.

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It was so peaceful, yes warm because it has been the warmest recorded temps for this time of year, regardless of what some might say. But no snakes! Just coyotes howling a little in the distance and some birds rustling about.

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Prince of Peace 1985
August 18, 2017, 11:10 pm
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I was just sharing this story with some friends last night and I thought it would be worth sharing to a larger audience..

In 1985 I went to the Prince concert, Purple Rain tour at the Tacoma Dome.

Prince of Peace 1985

The line was long getting in to the Tacoma Dome. As we moved so slowly in the line we noticed a protester carrying a sign. The sign said, “Jesus is the REAL PRINCE of peace.” I thought, that’s not such a bad protest. The guy was probably twenty or thirty feet away from us.

Years later I found out that Prince was a Jehova’s Witness. My friend John followed Prince and told me Prince would actually go out door to door just like all the other Jehova’s Witnesses. I thought that was integrity.

I remember playing a Prince album and noticing there was some garbled message at the end of the LP. I knew that some hard rock bands from the 70s had put messages recorded backwards on their albums. So I unplugged my turntable and ran the turntable backwards with my finger, to hear the message. The message was Prince singing, “I’m so glad / that the Lord / is coming soon! / Coming / Coming / soo–ooon. / Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha.” I thought that was pretty clever and cool, since the 70’s bands had put satanic or demonic messages on their albums, and Prince was doing something like the opposite. Some of his songs spoke of things like “positivity,” which enhanced his value to me.

A few years ago I was telling the story of the protester at the Purple Rain concert, now with the added knowledge that Prince had been a Christian evangelist, which I didn’t know in 1985. And something occurred to me. I think the protester was Prince, in makeup and a costume so we couldn’t recognize him. I think he protested his own concert! I think he protested his own name, “Prince,” or rather he used it as a way to celebrate another Prince whom he revered far more, the Prince of Peace.

I have never read or heard anyone talk about this. But if he stood outside with a sign at the Tacoma concert, he might have done the same at other locations in his Purple Rain tour in 1984-85. Did anyone else notice a protester with this sign?

I drew this drawing to show the picture in my mind of the moment. It wasn’t actually raining. There was a lot of concrete, with the dome in the background. I was wearing a pink long sleeve button down shirt with a skinny purple tie. I had a haircut something like David Bowie on the Ziggy Stardust album cover.



30 % WHOLE Facts
June 2, 2017, 8:56 am
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My wife, writer Traci Moore at her “fun desk” this morning, made me this collage:

30% WHOLE

Facts

generously blended with

Nutrition

roasted and kneaded

born of century old

tradition, faithfully produced

IN A COOL DRY PLACE the Swiss Alps!

Incomparable flavor!

 

I believe this inspired message comes from her training in the “Wild Mind” process that she’s been learning in Alameda and will be teaching in new workshops this summer… traci-moore.com



Sunday Discovery Workshops

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 .. it is important to stay balanced …

Sunday Workshop Series

for Personal Growth, Relationship and Life

These are workshops I have taught for years to therapists for their continuing education. Certain of my workshops are just as meaningful to non-therapists, so I have scheduled these titles for therapists on Sundays and (space permitting) inviting non-therapists to also attend.

To sign up for the Personal Discovery Workshops Newsletter, please use this link: http://eepurl.com/bnuRZ9

  • Location: Patrick Moore Home Office near Tohono Chul Park, near Oracle Road and Ina, NW Tucson, AZ 85704
  • Register by contacting Patrick: Contact Me
  • Class size: 1-10 students.
  • Half-price for non-therapists (except Reiki). (Prices for therapists are higher because for them I must produce handouts, certificates, take attendance, keep records and report to state and national authorities.)
  • Workshop Style: new information, nonjudgmental, safe environment. Prepare to be challenged compassionately and to experience different perspectives. All workshops are partially improvised to respond to those present, to be relevant for your current interests and needs. Stimulates curiosity, presence, vulnerability and compassion.

JUNE 2017

Sunday, June 25, 9:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. (one hour break for lunch)

Equal-Power Partnerships at Work and Home

$60.00 for non-therapists ($120.00 for therapists).

When I was young my Dad always told me, for any two people, one will be dominant. He believed this was true in work (he was a construction worker) and in relationships with women. As an adult I have learned differently. In this workshop we explore how we can be equal with others. This is helpful both for those times we overexert our power and underexert. A relationship with two equals is best described as a partnership. The workshop is improvised to respond to those present, to be relevant for your current interests and needs.

JULY 2017

Sunday, July 9, 9:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m.

Reiki Level One (Shoden) Reiki Practitioner I

Reiki (lecture, hands-on, attunement)

$150.00, or take both Reiki I and II on successive Sundays for $325.00 (you save $75.00)

Reiki is a method that activates, or gives you a shortcut, to directing energy–or, the stuff our universe is made of. Reiki is a compassionate method for healing, resolving, embracing and transforming issues and ailments. Reiki is equally effective for oneself, to empower goals, to finesse problems, to learn new skills, resume arrested development, for personal discovery and spiritual growth.

Sunday, July 16, 9:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. (one hour break for lunch)

Reiki Level Two (Okuden) Reiki Practitioner II

Reiki (lecture, hands-on, hands-above, attunement)

$250.00, or take both Reiki I and II on successive Sundays for $325.00 (you save $75.00)

Includes instructions how to direct energy (or, the stuff our universe is made of) in the past, future and incrementally over any span of time. For those, like me, interested in the fabric of the universe, this is the fun part!

Sunday, July 30, 9:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. (one hour break for lunch)

Responding, Not Reacting – Being Nonjudgmental with Others and Yourself

$60.00 ($120.00 for therapists)

Nobody is perfect. We all react. Still, we may learn to redirect our reactions quickly, so that we don’t blast others, behave impulsively and suffer unnecessary consequences. This is what Mr. Rogers was talking about in his video to congress https://youtu.be/fKy7ljRr0AA?t=4m10s when he tells the lyrics to a song for children about restraining one’s reactions. What can we do instead of reacting? Responding! The alternatives to reacting may include: humor (non-sarcastic), play, funny gestures, expressions, vocalizations or movements, loving, nurturing, improvising, creativity, sharing, vulnerability, patience, presence and compassion. In this workshop we will practice with partners and discuss relevant scenarios, in a fun way.

AUGUST 2017

Sunday, August 13, 9:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m.

Holistic Healing – a Model of Body & Mind as attributes of Essence

$50.00 ($100.00 for therapists)

Most of us know someone, or perhaps ourselves, who has faced an illness or behavior that threatens losses of functions, abilities, relationships or life itself. Facing such a harsh scene, many people suddenly question the meaning of life. Who are we? Why am I here? And this can be a good thing, if we engage these questions with curiosity, because the answers are often enlightening, fulfilling and empowering. Each person’s true essence is fully capable, and willing to embrace any challenge this world (or this body) throws at us. In this workshop we discuss life, death and health in a fun, fascinating light.

Sunday, August 27, 9:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. (one hour break for lunch)

Expectations – Theirs and Yours

$60.00 ($120.00 for therapists)

What an enlightening topic: to understand how many of our conflicts in life arise from unmet expectations. We drive ourselves crazy when we expect things of others they do not do, when we expect things of ourselves we do not do, and when others expect things of us we do not want to do! What’s the cure? It doesn’t take long to begin adjusting our expectations to be more realistic, and to begin negotiating kindly with others regarding their expectations of us.

SEPTEMBER 2017

Sunday, September 10, 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. (one hour break for lunch)

Melting Muscles Basic – Prone (hands-on-body, back massage, clothed)

$80.50 ($161.00 for therapists)

I have taught this method to about a thousand therapists, and a few dozen non-therapists. It is easy to learn and seems like magic when you feel a muscle melting under your hand. You will be receiving as much muscle-melting as you give. You will learn to relax about 15 muscles on the back of the body. Massage tables are provided. Wear sweats, pajamas or yoga clothing as we will be working through clothing (no jeans).

 

Sunday, September 24, 9:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. (one hour break for lunch)

Clothed Massage Relaxes Muscles Better

$69.00 ($138.00 for therapists) Some Hands-On. Wear loose or stretchy clothing, no jeans.

In this workshop we do some hands-on-body “melting muscles” through clothing, with the recipient face-up on massage tables. We also discuss how and why muscles relax better when the recipient is clothed. If you be interested in starting a clothed-massage clinic, on the model of a network-chiropractic clinic, then this workshop is for you. If you are simply curious about how muscles feel safe and relax, and want to give and receive some nurturing treatment, this workshop is also for you.

OCTOBER 2017

Sunday, October 1, 9:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m.

Activating Your Intuition  (partner exercises and discussion)

$57.50 ($115.00 for therapists)

Intuition is not magical, it is simply enhanced perception. This workshop is less about how intuition works, and more about practicing and improving our skills. Since intuition is natural, we don’t have to learn how to do it, only to recall how to do it. Once we are doing it we practice turning it off again, so that we become clearer about how to activate and deactivate intuition. Fun exercises including games, followed by discussion.

Sunday, October 15, 9:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m.

How Energy Draws Clients to your Business

$50 ($100.00 for therapists), category: Business/Marketing, Group Discussion.

Does your job rely at all on people being satisfied by what you do? Are you an artist, writer or musician? Did you know that your energy has a lot to do with how others will respond to your services and offerings? This workshop discusses the ways energy (or, the stuff this universe is made of) influences others and ourselves, and how we influence energy with our thoughts, interpretations and behaviors.

Sunday, October 29, 9:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m.

Exercising Naturally – how Oxygen Decreases Muscle Soreness, Improves Health & Mood

$50 ($100.00 for therapists)

We start the day with a one-hour walk (or longer depending on participants) during which we begin to discuss how and why exercise benefits us so much. The emphasis is on creating a healthy relationship with exercise, that develops and grows more friendly over a lifetime.

NOVEMBER 2017

Sunday, November 12, 9:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. (one hour break for lunch)

The Philosophy of Ethics from Plato to Spinoza  

$60.00 ($120.00 for therapists)

A fun way for professionals to get their “professional ethics” hours.

Also a fun way to learn about the history of ethics. Why think of others? Why not just take every advantage you can? Learn how Plato, Boethius and others answered these questions and see if their answers make any sense to you. While we are at it, we may learn “how to make life worth living.”

Sunday, November 26, 9:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. (one hour break for lunch)

Breathing Naturally – from Deliberate Exhalation to Zen Meditation

$60.00 ($120.00 for therapists)

Somehow, humans have forgotten the natural way to breathe that we did as children. Because we avoid exhaling, our blood becomes more acidic, we age faster, are more grumpy and sore. First we learn to deliberately exhale a little more, then we learn how to breathe more and more naturally, without controlling. You will also learn how gas exchanges at the lungs and how oxygen is transported throughout your body. With more oxygen you will be more alert, calmer, clearer, with more energy, vitality and endurance.

DECEMBER 2017

Sunday, December 3, 9:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. (one hour break for lunch)

Muscle Guarding as Communication – Learning the Nonverbal Language of Muscles

       The Muscle Whisperer Class

$60.00 ($120.00 for therapists)

Have you seen the movie, The Horse Whisperer? Have you seen The Truth about Cats & Dogs? How would you like to understand the language of human muscles? How would you like to talk directly with the subconscious, so that you can figure out why it is making the muscles achey, tight & sore? What if you could speak to the muscles in their own language, so they would agree to relax and play nice?

Sunday & Monday, December 10 & 11, 9:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. (one hour break for lunch)

Reiki Level Three (Shinpiden or Shinpiden) Reiki Master PLUS Reiki Teacher Skills – How to Maximize Your Reiki Students’ Confidence and Effectiveness (Teacher Training)

Reiki + Teacher Training (lecture, hands-above, attunement, discussion)

6 + 6 = 12 Live Hours

$600.00 (half-financial aid available for one participant in this class)

Registration deadline Sunday, December 3.

2018 (DATES NOT YET SCHEDULED):

Melting Muscles Theory – How and Why do Muscles Melt? (Muscle Physiology / Therapeutic Relationship)

Therapeutic Massage (group discussion)

5 Live Hours, $100.00 (25% off, when paid in full, $75.00, by

Mirror Neurons – Using Clients’ Mirroring Tendency to Connect with their Tension and Lead Them to Relax (Research)

Research (group discussion)

5 Live Hours

 

Is there a topic you would like to learn more about? Please let me know

Contact Me

Warmly,

Patrick

 



Borrowing Cheerup and Calmdown
February 27, 2017, 5:02 pm
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Up or Down?  Where is balance?

 

Pep Up or Calm Down? Which is the Best Way to Live?

 The following is an excerpt from the most recent Natural Healer Newsletter. To subscribe to the email newsletter sign up here: http://eepurl.com/bnuPuj

Your nervous system has two processes—up-regulating and down-regulating. Which is better? Should we live life always pepped-up? Or always calmed-down? A natural balance uses both strategies. According to Arlene Montgomery in her 2013 book, Neurobiology Essentials for Clinicians. http://smile.amazon.com/dp/0393706028  people can get into a bad habit: people who habitually upregulate, Montgomery calls anxious. People who habitually downregulate, she calls depressed. Montgomery defines a resilient person as one who can use both systems at appropriate situations.

I want to be resilient! I tend toward depression.

This article describes how we may help others become more resilient. The side-effect of helping others is that we helpers become more resilient ourselves.

 

Relaxation Is Not Always Best

Isn’t relaxation always good? No, relaxation is not always the best remedy. Just as often, a person needs to pep up. …

 

Nerve State is Borrowed by Mirroring

… If you were listening to talk radio, with callers shouting passionately, and hosts hammering their points with persistent hard voices, how would you feel? If you were watching a video with protesters marching, seeing cops handcuffing them, how would you feel? We can’t help but borrow nervous states when we see facial expressions, postures and hear tones of voice. Mimicking–or Mirroring–is hard-wired into social animals…

 

Therapeutic Borrowing and Lending

The fact we humans mimic, is very useful for therapists.

First let’s make it too simple: You are a therapist. A person comes in to your office, looking very depressed and low. You in turn, turn up your smile, raise your voice a bit, lift your chest and present a cheerful, alert and active presence. The other person can mimic, and so borrow your state. Then they too will be cheerful, alert and active.

This is too simple. A depressed person does not mimic someone who is peppy. People have tried that on me when I am depressed, and it just annoys me. Why does this NOT work?

By laws of nature, we will not mimic someone whose state looks inappropriate for the situation. When I am depressed I think the situation is inherently depressing. When I see someone cheerful, they clearly do not perceive the world the way I do. My brain thinks, Why would someone be cheerful while the situation is depressing? In a depressed person’s judgment, anyone who is cheerful must have a screw loose.

Similarly, in an anxious person’s judgment, the situation requires more action–fighting or running away–and anyone who is calm at a time like this, must have a screw loose.

It would be dangerous to mimic someone whose thinking deviates from reality. By the laws of nature, we social animals will not mimic someone whose expressions, postures and tones of voice appear (in our judgment) inappropriate to the situation. Our survival would be at risk, to mirror someone who thinks it is time to act when it is time to give up, or vice versa.

Under what conditions will a depressed person, or an anxious person, resonate with another who wishes to be helpful? …

 

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Below are four of the upcoming Tucson workshops that feature mirroring, borrowing and body psychology. To register, contact me through my website: meltingmuscles.com/contact.html  

 

Sunday, March 26, 9 a.m.

Activating Your Intuition – 5 hour (Self-Care)

Awaken your sixth sense! Based on workshops with Stephen Bruno, partner exercises to dramatically improve your intuitive perception.

 

Monday, April 3, 2017, 9 a.m.

Responding, Not Reacting – Being Nonjudgmental with Challenged Clients and Yourself

(Communication/Therapeutic Relationship), Body Psychology, (discussion) 6 hours.

Don’t get aggravated. Turn challenges into healing moments by responding and unlocking this gift.

 

Monday, April 10, 2017, 9 a.m.

Mirror Neurons – Using Clients’ Mirroring Tendency to Connect with their Tension and Lead Them to Relax

(discussion), Research, 5 hours.

We social animals mirror others in order to understand them. Learning how, aids therapists and anyone who wants to improve his relationships.

 

Monday, May 1, 2017, 9 a.m.

Muscle Guarding as Communication – Learning the Nonverbal Language of Muscles

Body Psychology, 6 hours (group discussion).

A muscle tightening, tells you the brain feels unsafe about something. A muscle melting, tells you the brain is feeling safer about that thing…

 

More workshops are listed at my continuing education blog: meltingmuscles.blogspot.com