Insights and Healing with Patrick Moore


Clothed Massage Resolves Tension and Reduces Mischief (book excerpt)
March 29, 2018, 11:03 pm
Filed under: Clothed Massage, essence, massage

Three Parts of the Book Focus on Three Aspects of Safety

(this is an excerpt from the opening of my new book in progress. Please leave comments at the bottom, thanks.)

Clothing increases safety, in numerous ways. This is the message of Part One of the book.

I know clothing increases therapeutic effectiveness because I can feel the difference. I have done thousands of massages the Swedish way (on bare skin) and through clothing. Muscles begin to resolve tension quicker, muscles resolve a greater percentage of their tension, and more muscles in more regions of the body resolve tension when the person is clothed. Part One explains a dozen ways the brain feels safer to let down its guard, while the person is clothed. The therapist also feels safer. When the therapist feels safer, therapy is more effective.

Part One finishes with some practical benefits of clothed massage. The absence of massage oil keeps the clinic much cleaner and saves laundry. Far less privacy is required which may saves space and definitely saves time, because there is no wasted time as people disrobe and dress again. Advertising your massage business as clothed-only may draw thousands of new customers who have never dared to receive massage before, who did not want to be told to take their clothes off to receive therapy.

Part Two of this book explains the minimum you need to do to touch muscles in a way that helps the brain resolve its tensions. When the brain reduces the voltage to the muscle, the muscle palpably softens. I wish I had been taught this stuff in massage school! The technique is far simpler than you may think. Many people are already doing this, they just don’t have the language yet to explain what they are doing. Knowing how muscles become tense, and how they relax, dramatically increases your effectiveness. Too many bodywork methods seem mysterious in how they work, or downright unbelievable. You must be able to explain to recipients exactly how your technique leads to the resolution of tensions. The person’s subconscious brain won’t feel safe enough to let down its guarding, without a plausible explanation of how it will benefit the person.

Part Three explains the minimum you need to be so that people’s brains will feel safe letting down their guarding in your presence. Things like equal-power relationship and qualities you are being like patient, nonjudgmental and curious, make all the difference. Again this is simpler than you might think. It is actually more difficult to explain in words, than it is to be. I’d like you to know how being nonjudgmental, for example, leads to muscles relaxing. Hint: the person feels much safer when she knows she is not being judged.

What’s In The Book? What’s Not?

The rule for this book is, if it’s in here, I believe you need to know it in order to thrive in the business of clothed massage, either as an individual therapist or as a clinic manager.

What’s not in the book? I leave out advanced techniques because you don’t need them. The simplest techniques work perfectly, when you are consistently coming from the right place . What is the right place? That is covered.

Because I don’t like to rehash what’s in other books, this book will be on the short side. I hope you see the value of my leaving out what you don’t need.

 

Is Clothed Massage Merely a Second-Rate Consolation?

I have never seen clothed massage offered on any menu of services besides my own.

Clothed massage is not taught in massage school. The closest thing offered is an elective class in chair massage, which is done through clothing. Most therapists I know who offer chair massage offer it as a sort of free sample, to get people to make an appointment for the real thing–bare skin massage. Or if someone is too modest to take off her clothes, you might agree to give her at least something, since she won’t commit to the real thing. Therapists or clinics might occasionally condescend to allow clothing in isolated instances, when the recipient is too modest, resistant or prudish.

I see it the other way round. I believe muscles relax better when the recipient is clothed. I see clothed massage as the real thing and bare skin massage as second-best. Modesty helps the brain feel safer and the brain’s safety should be our first concern, if we consider ourselves therapists.

My intention for this book is that every person, in every city, wanting therapy to resolve their muscle tension, would have the option of remaining clothed during every session. If it works as well or better than the old way, why not offer clothed massage on your menu of services?

Safety First

When a person feels safe, her nervous system cooperates with therapists and activates all her body’s healing abilities. When she questions her safety, her nervous system deactivates healing processes and activates defense, offense and diversion. In particular, when a person questions her safety, her brain sends extra electricity to her muscles, which contracts or tenses the muscles so they become harder, less flexible and sore. Each muscle that is tense today, was made tense deliberately by the brain quite a while ago, based on a particular interpretation she made regarding her safety. The brain does this to protect or guard her from risks. Her brain has not yet felt safe enough to resolve that guarding.

How Safe is Massage Therapy Currently?

Massage therapy is an unusual form of therapy.

The Masseur shows the recipient into the private room with a bed, complete with sheets and covers. There are no windows or if there are, nobody can see in. The recipient is instructed to take off her clothes and get between the sheets. He steps out and closes the door while she takes off her clothes and climbs onto the bed nude, then covers herself with the top sheet. Then he knocks and comes in. If she understood him correctly she will be lying between the sheets, so that her nudity is covered by the top sheet and perhaps a blanket. If she misunderstood she may be lying nude on top of both sheets, so he sees her nudity when she walks in. He closes the door behind him. They will be alone in the closed room for an hour. The room has dim lighting, nice music playing, perhaps with candles lit or scent diffusers for mood. Before the touching even begins, this form of therapy is unlike any other form of therapy. Or is it therapy?

For therapy to occur, the subconscious brain must feel safe enough to revisit old reactions and reconsider or reinterpret them in a more enlightened way. How safe does her brain feel, right now, to do this? Or does she wonder if he has something else on his mind? Does he? Does she?

Safety is important for all forms of therapy, in order to help the person’s brain or mind to make progress toward the therapeutic goals. Safety may be doubly important when the therapist will touch the recipient. The importance of safety may be four times as important, when the recipient will be nude during the touch. If the recipient (or the giver) created a strong negative interpretation during the attachment phase of childhood with a parent or caregiver, the safety required during a touch-therapy that occurs while the recipient is nude, doubles again to eight times more safety necessary… (please leave comments, thanks)

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