Insights and Healing with Patrick Moore


What is Life-Coaching and How is it Not Therapy?
January 20, 2019, 11:33 am
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When a friend or family member is struggling with a challenge or concern, there is often the temptation to give advice, and “psychoanalyze” them. I have also been tempted to give therapy when I don’t have the credentials or education to provide therapy. I thought I understood their problems well enough to solve their problem for them, and then later realized I didn’t know enough, and solving their problem is not always even helpful.

What is it psychotherapists do, that is really beyond what a friend or loved one can offer, and more that what a lifecoach should offer?  This question has been discussed for at least seventeen years as this page from Coachville from 2002 shows. One reason I read so many textbooks for psychotherapists is, I need to know what it is they do, so I can be clear what it is I am not supposed to do as a lifecoach and mentor for other lifecoaches. I believe in the last year I have gained a much clearer understanding of at least one boundary. And I was surprised to find this well-articulated boundary described more than one hundred years ago!

Pierre Janet (1859 – 1947) is considered one of the founders of modern psychology, especially in treating people with trauma. Janet outlined three phases in treatment for people with traumas. One of these phases, is really far beyond the scope of friends or family to solve, and beyond the scope of lifecoaches.

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Janet’s Phase One would include:

• Help the person get into a life situation safe enough to proceed with therapy. An example of this would be getting out of an abusive or addictive situation, into a situation that is safer.
• Skills: help the person learn how to manage life’s stressors, or to cope, so that life feels stable enough to proceed with therapy. An example of this would be practice responding rather than reacting.
• Education: help the person understand a few things including — the big picture of how people could be natural and fulfilled — some of the ways people get diverted off this course — what is the difference between responding and reacting and — why is interpretation so important.
• Self-soothing. Natural-enough things that help the person calm down from anxieties and worries.
• Self-energizing. Natural-enough things that help the person pep up from depression and giving up.

Phase Two for people with trauma, Janet believed, should only begin once Phase One has succeeded in helping the person feel safe enough, stable enough, educated enough and self-regulating enough to begin the more challenging Phase Two. Phase One may require months or years, before the person is ready for Phase Two. Phase two is what family, friends and lifecoaches should refrain from attempting!

Phase Two of therapy for trauma would include:

• Talking about the incidents from the past that are associated with the trauma.
• There is the possibility intense emotions would be expressed, once the person is describing traumatic events.
• Putting the events into one’s past history, or retelling one’s story, with those events understood and felt to be in the past, so they no longer feel like they are happening now.
• There is the possibility of feeling the emotions of mourning losses, lost time, lost opportunities, lost childhood, lost innocence and so forth.

Since Phase Two can be very intense, shocking or surprising, it is utmost important, according to Janet, that people have skills and understanding that allow them to be resilient during the Phase Two therapy process. Do they have enough of these skills and understanding? Even assessing whether they have enough, requires an experienced, well-educated therapist. Without Phase One, the person now exposed to their traumas, is sometimes made to feel worse rather than better. If the emotions are too intense and there is no context for understanding, they can end up more confused rather than more resolved. This is why Phase One is extremely important and a necessary condition to complete prior to beginning Phase Two. This is also why talking about the experiences from the past, is off-limits for all but trained professionals. Don’t try this at home. This is not a D.I.Y. project to try out.

When I was in massage school in the 90’s many therapists and teachers were experimenting with what they called “Emotional Release” methods, that would supposedly relieve people of the emotions they had kept contained for so long. Nobody told us that getting people to re-experience old compartmentalized emotions could make the people more confused and feel worse. Looking back, this was not a very smart thing for massage therapists to be tinkering with.

Phase Three is the support the person needs to recreate herself, or to find her original self that was never developed because of her trauma. Even though this is her real self, it will feel unfamiliar and she will need support. To a person having moved past some or most of her trauma, she may feel as if she is a new person, or as if she is being introduced to a new person,  herself. She may feel silly, tender, vulnerable and sensitive in situations that she used to do habitually. She may make mistakes. Ordinary life experiences may feel intense. Intense life experiences may feel extreme. At first. She will also have new opportunities for fulfillment, relationships, excitement, joy, invention, career and love that will seem completely new to her and she may feel tentative to embrace these at first. In Stage Three the helper supports her to understand this is normal in her situation. Initially the helper offers mentoring and guidance and soon gradually tapers off helping, as the person steps into greater and greater self-sufficiency, independence and responsibility for her own life. A person finishing Stage Three begins to step boldly along her natural path and soon requires no assistance.

Where Does Lifecoaching Fit in Trauma Treatment?

This discussion has been about someone who has been traumatized by an event in their past, This person may require the help of a psychotherapist who will manage the three phases. The lifecoach may assist and complement what the therapist would like for the person to gain in Stage one. This assistance from the lifecoach may accelerate the time or better prepare the person to be resilient for the stage two work they will do with the therapist.   it is phase two that is clearly what life-coaches would refrain from doing. When the therapist feels it is time to begin stage three, again the lifecoach may be helpful and may accelerate the person’s time to completion of all three stages.

Stage One and Stage Three Would Help Everyone!

The interesting thing about Phase One and Phase Three goals, is that all people would benefit from them:

• With the lifecoach’s partnership, the person adjusting their own life to make it safe enough
• Assistance to adjust one’s own life so there are fewer anxiety-producing stresses and more excitement-producing incentives.
• Someone helping you understand how life works, and where one is in the spectrum. If fulfillment is natural and I don’t feel fulfilled, how does that generally occur?
• Learning how, and practicing, responding rather than reacting. We may have arranged life to eliminate as many anxiety-producing stimuli as possible, and yet life still emerges with new things, unexpected and unforeseen! For these, we need skills for responding to things rather than reacting to them. And such skills require a lot of practice–enough practice so they will actually activate in the unexpected and unforeseen times of need.

Phase One and Phase Three things are in self help books, or they could be. Some people may actually learn them fine by reading, and may actually implement them without help. For those who have read them but haven’t been able to implemented them alone, a life coach can make all the difference.

Who Else Benefits from Coaching?

Many people have had no trauma, yet they feel their life is inhibited. They are not getting all from life that they could get, and they are not giving as much to others as they could give. It’s not that these people have any diagnosable mental condition, in many cases, but the culture we live in sways us off our natural course.

Enculturation Requires Assistance to Get Free Of

Our culture emphasizes competition when we could be cooperating, control when we could be influencing, reaction when we could be responding, judgment when we could be discerning, conditional love when we could be unconditionally compassionate, rigidity when we could be curious, distraction when we could be present and patient. Growing up in, and being conditioned to our culture is not a diagnosable mental illness, but it does inhibit the natural fulfillment we could get and the natural compassion we could be giving others.

Since our culture does not prepare or educate us how to be natural in various situations or relationships, it is almost as if we need a whole new school to learn to be natural, even though it is the way we were designed!

Yes, you can figure these things out by yourself. The main problem is, when we look at ourselves, we do not see our own issues. Our perspective tends to cancel out our own behaviors so we do not see them. It can be very supportive to have a helper who can see one with neutral eyes, someone who is supportive, who cares, who has a sense of what natural would be for you. If not a lifecoach then a group of people all trying to be more natural together would also be very helpful, as long as the group are not all people who happen to have the same perspective, in which case they will all be blind to the thing they all are doing.

With the help of an equal partner, you may quickly grasp, ah, that’s what natural would be for me.

The Future of Life Coaching?

I wonder if, in the future, therapists would refer people out to life coaches for Phase One assistance prior to, or co-concurrent with therapy, and again for Phase Three assistance later, so that people could more quickly or thoroughly complete the three phases?

In the future I imagine there may be life coaches who specialize in either Phase One or Phase Three assistance, or who specialize in either skill building or education.

Wouldn’t it be nice if schools one day offered skills like responding not reacting, and education about how life could naturally be fulfilling? Or courses for parents so they could offer these skills and education to their children? Of course, if parents and schools were giving all this to young people, life coaches would be out of a job. But I would be happy to be out of a job for that reason 🙂

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Patrick is currently preparing a Sociodrama group for people to learn-by-doing, how to be natural, responding not reacting, in a scene-playing format. This will be held weekly in Tucson. 

Patrick also provides face-to-face life-coaching in Tucson, while going for walks in quiet neighborhoods and local trails, while sitting at Tucson coffee shops or by phone, for people located anywhere. Your phone session includes intuitive and energetic connecting so it is very much like an in-person session. Coaching can be added to clothed-bodywork sessions at Patrick’s NW Tucson home-office. If you have questions or would like to schedule sessions please use the Sessions link above left and use the contact form to contact me initially. After initial contact I will give you my email address and if we make an appointment I will share my mobile number. 

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Announcing Reiki I and II for New Year 2019 Self-Help and Service to Others
January 6, 2019, 4:18 pm
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March 16 and 17, 2019, Tucson AZ

Hoping for new directions for 2019?

Becoming a certified Usui Shiki Ryoho Reiki Practitioner boosts your ability and incentive to recreate yourself to your own true design, and uplift others including animals & humans.

These classes include learning, understanding, insight, incentive, skills and the Reiki Level I and Level II attunements, which help align your body and chakra energies with your natural essence.

To register, or if you have questions, please Contact Patrick

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Our workshop space has a view of Pima Canyon

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Since 2001 I have been teaching certification classes for all levels of the Reiki Usui System of Natural Healing. Some of my former students regularly use natural healing energy for themselves, loved ones, pets and other beings who can use natural healing energy support.

Why choose me for your Reiki certification? Like my Reiki Teacher Stephen Bruno, I am thorough in my teaching. To be the best you can be at directing energy for natural healing, growth, development, insight and enlightenment, you’ll want to gain certain understandings, skills and practices that I recognize and provide.

We meet from 9:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m. on Saturday and Sunday. Upon completion you receive certifications for Level I and Level II Practitioner. The fee for Usui Shiki Ryoho Reiki Level I (Shoden) First Degree Practitioner Certification class is $150 and for Level II is $250. When you take both together on consecutive days you save $100. Separately the classes would be $400, so the total fee is only $300. You may re-attend with me the same level classes, space permitting, for four years without any additional fee. I accept a payment plan as needed.

To register, or if you have questions, please Contact Patrick



Contact Patrick
January 6, 2019, 11:50 am
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Questions? Like to register for a Reiki or other workshop? Like to make an appointment for a phone session?



Breathing Naturally eBook
August 15, 2018, 1:09 pm
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Humans like me have been enculturated to breathe unnaturally. We have stopped using any effort to exhale. We use effort to inhale, then let gravity and the elasticity of our tissues to push out air. But this does not push out enough air, and we end up acidic, or carbonated. Just as there is too much CO2 in the atmosphere, there is too much CO2 in our bodies.

At least, that is what I claim in my eBook, Breathing Naturally. (here is the link)

Support independent publishing: Buy this e-book on Lulu.

This book has been the work of more than a decade, including my experiences breathing while jogging, learning how to treat breathing muscles in massage school, and extra research I have done.

The book begins with a story of me jogging along the canal in Phoenix late one night. The jasmine flowers were in bloom along the Biltmore area and I was inhaling their scent as I jogged…

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This cover image, I photoshopped from two different locations along the canal. One is near Camelback (you see in the background) to the East of the Biltmore area. The other photo is my friend Maurice when we used to jog along the canal from Scottsdale into the indian reservation to the East of Scottsdale. I shot this photo of him using my phone as we jogged. We both had pony tails at that time so I used his photo to represent me… The canals through Phoenix and Scottsdale, it is told, were built by the Hohokam or “old ones” indians who were here prior to the tribes who now live in Arizona. It is fun to jog along there, imagining natives might have done the same jog five to six hundred years ago, prior to Europeans arriving in the Americas…

 



Reiki Level Two, Time and Space Travel
June 21, 2018, 10:04 am
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Whenever I read tales of time travel and space travel, even as a youngster, I wondered why people would bother building things like fancy cars to take them there. Why not just go? I was ten when the Fleetwood Mac song “Hypnotized” came out, which described flying over mountains and trees without an airplane. Soon I was practicing in my basement with a book on Self Hypnosis that I got from my school library. I was thirteen when I read Carlos Castaneda’s Second Ring of Power, my first confirmation that people could go places without a metal vehicle.

The Reiki Level Two practitioner is suddenly capable of “sending energy” into the past and future, or to a person who is in another part of the world. I consider this to be time travel and space travel.

Is it technology? Is it shamanism? What differentiates science from spirituality? Both H.G. Wells’ Time Machine and Reiki Level Two are using equations, symbols in specific combinations that yield specific results. In fact Wells’ story had a similar effect as the healing in this graph.

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Reiki Level Two–sending energy into the recipient’s past, having the energy be constant from then until a future time, and from there influencing the present with energy.

Wells’ story followed an original thinker whom his friends thought was crazy. He went far into the future to see what are the effects of how humans are currently operating. He came back to the present to tell the cautionary tale: if one class of people are doing all the work, and another class of people are living in comfort and beauty, over the course of evolution the two will become different species, one having far greater capability and intelligence than the other. Those who pursue only comfort and beauty will grow weak over time until they can no longer assure their own survival but will be completely dependent upon others. By publishing the story, Wells actually changed the future by changing his present (our past). For the Time Machine, Wells used the same graph above, only flipped.. first Wells went to the far future, then back to the present to influence the readers who would change the near future. The book about time travel, actually changed our timeline!

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Wells used this same approach when he wrote about the far past, in his story about the first prehistoric man who began thinking strategically, and in his History of the World. Wells realized the way a story is told about the past, influences the future and present.

When we want to heal something really heavy, tragic, or having its roots in trauma or overwhelming emotions in the past, we need a sophisticated and thorough approach, equal to or greater than the intensity of the original.

While self-healing is possible, and people should always do all they can for themselves, it is also very helpful (perhaps necessary?) that an objective outside person bringing unconditional compassion, assists the healing. Reiki can be very powerful both for healing oneself and for assisting healing others. I say can be because the equations alone are often not adequate, for the big things. Then we want the technique of Reiki plus the guarantee that the giver is coming from the right place. This addition is what gives Reiki that everpresence and thoroughness, so that no ailment will stand.

Here are the steps I learned from Reiki Master Stephen Bruno

  1. Step One: Connect with the person’s essence, with your own essence.
  2. Step Two: Connect with the first and strongest early causes of the predicament the person is now suffering.
  3. Step Three: Create an arc of energy that begins in time at the first causes, arcing to the final dissipation of this ailment or dis-ease, in the future.
  4. This arc of energy sort of rains down upon the person, every moment between the first second of the precursors of the illness to the last.
  5. Step Four: Connect with the future time when this malady has been completely evaporated.
  6. Step Five: Have your own essence calculate what is required in the present, so that by the future, this future will be in place.
  7. Create an arc of energy from the present to the future, that rains down all that is required from now to the future in which this situation is embraced.

I will be offering Reiki I and II on Saturday and Sunday, July 28 & 29, 2018 in Tucson, AZ. To register, or if you have any questions about Level Two Reiki, please use the contact form below. I am happy to provide short support by email and free phone consultations.

Warmly,

Patrick

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Reiki I & II Certification Classes July 28 & 29, 2018
June 14, 2018, 1:17 pm
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My Reiki Teacher Stephen is hosting his next Reiki workshops in Grand Junction, Colorado…

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These classes are designed to thoroughly teach The Usui System of Natural Healing. These certification classes are a combination of lecture, discussion, and hands-on practical experience. The classes are kept small for quality instruction. Register soon to reserve your spot in July’s Grand Junction, Colorado Reiki I & II Certification Classes.

These classes include instruction on giving animals and other critters Reiki treatments.

Learn the Usui System of Natural Healing and become a Certified Reiki Practitioner. To register for this class click on Contact Stephen.

Kindle your passions, stimulate your compassion and re-ignite your inner power by attending this certification class. Our lunch break (meal not provided) is 1 hour with restaurants 15 minutes and away from the training location. These classes are held from 10:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m in Grand Junction, Colorado. Time for breaks is given. Upon completion of the class, participants will…

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Saguaro Harvest will be a Good One!
May 30, 2018, 12:37 pm
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Judging from the profuse flowering of saguaro cactus in the city limits of Tucson, I am predicting a great harvest of saguaro fruits by June 15. You don’t need a pole to get the best fruits, you simply look around the bottom of saguaros. When to look? Look up at the tops of the Saguaros. Right now you see white flowers open, or flowers that have closed and look like knobs. When you see what looks like open red flowers, that look like Stargazer Lillies, those are not flowers.. Those are fruits! 

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This photo shows two perfect saguaro fruits just as I found them lying on the ground near the base of the tall cactus. What look like flower petals, are the fruit skin. In the hot sun, the fruit opens and peels itself. The inner fruit that starts out juicy and wet, dehydrates during the day. Often just the dried fruit falls out of the peel. Often you find perfect non-messy soft but not juicy sweet fruits on the ground. Since they have partially dehydrated they do not pick up dirt, maybe a little dirt but you can blow them off and pop them in your mouth. Yum! This is my favorite fruit!!

The fruit peel may have a few stickers but I am very sensitive to stickers and I handle the fruit peels with my bare hands. Once the fruit has opened, the inner fruit has no stickers and you can eat it without fear of stickers in your mouth. (UNlike “prickly pear” fruit. Prickly Pear are small bushy cacti with flat pancake shapes that look like hands. Prickly pear are usually about the height of your knee or hip. Saguaro are usually twenty feet tall, like a light pole, sometimes with arms, sometimes without).

I have twice attended a saguaro harvesting class, where we were shown how to pull down saguaro fruits with a pole. I have done it that way myself but gave it up for two reasons. 1) the fruits that have fallen on the ground are so much more abundant that there is no need to go through all the work. You can get more fruits per hour just foraging on the ground. 2) the ones on the ground are dry, and the ones you push off the cactus twenty feet in the air are wet. Once they fall, the wet ones gather dirt and gravel.  Difficult to eat today, difficult to separate out the dirt and gravel if you want to eat raw fruits for the next few weeks.

Sometimes the fruit falls and hits a branch of a palo verde tree, and hangs there at the level of your eye or hand. You don’t even need to bend over, the fruit is offered for you there just perfect for your reach! How generous these tall beings are!

Last year I posted a plate full of dried saguaro, I will find that photo and post it again. In the middle of the season I filled up a 2-quart plastic container with mostly dry saguaro fruit in about two hours.

The season ends when the rains begin, maybe around July 3.

Saguaro fruit is low-glycemic sugar so it is healthier for people watching their sugar. That means it is metabolized slower than some other fruits. That is, unless you cook it. Once you boil saguaro fruit down to jelly, then the sugar is just as potent as other sugars. I feel cooking spoils the flavor of saguaro. They taste so good raw!! As the fruit has been hanging out on the peel all day, sometimes it ferments a little which gives it a sweet tang, ah!

It is illegal to harvest saguaro fruit in Saguaro National Park and many other places. It is against the policies to pick any fruits at the Desert Museum. Be sure to check and ask permission before harvesting. That said, since there has been so much flowering in local Tucson homes, you might have a bounty of fruits in your own yard, or your neighbor’s yard. My neighbor has given me permission to harvest her saguaro fruits. I have counted over a hundred blossoms on her several saguaros so I am drooling!