Insights and Healing with Patrick Moore


The Importance of Poor Performance

I wrote this in 2014 and the core message is still good so I gave it a refresh..

Before most workshops I worry that I may not perform well as a teacher. After the workshop is over, I am required to have students fill in a feedback form. Will I read them? Too often, I file these forms away, afraid to read them.

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A year passes. I prepare to teach the same workshop title again. Now, the purpose of the feedback forms is to improve the quality of education. So I really should dust off those feedback forms and read them before I teach the same title again. Do I brave my fear of looking back at student feedback forms and past handouts? Not in recent years. What am I so afraid of?

When I revise my handouts, or look at stories, articles and books I wrote two or more years prior, I usually gasp. I can’t believe I printed that, and handed it to people! What was I thinking? My older writing seems to expose me as arrogant or closed-minded. Because by “now” I think I am so much more enlightened. So I imagine students see me that way too, and I don’t want to look.

I might consider praying to God, or to a patron saint for teachers, asking the angels or getting a blessing from a shaman to guarantee my next teaching performance will be perfect. Wouldn’t that be nice? Resting in the certainty that I’ve got it covered?

In theory I understand that for one’s teaching to improve, there must be worse performances for it to improve from. This is the importance of poor performance. I realize that perfect teaching performances would mean the quality of teaching would never improve.

Some classes I teach, I do teach practically perfectly. As it is happening, and when it is over, I feel confident I did a great job. These times I do look at feedback forms, and I see mostly 10s. Then I feel self-satisfied. That feels good, right? Temporarily, yes, but there is a downside for me.

When I attend classes (which I must do to maintain my license just like everybody else), self-satisfied teachers really irritate me. My brain won’t let me have it both ways. Whenever I feel self-satisfied, my brain will give me a tinge of the judgment that I have applied toward those other self-satisfied teachers. Then I feel ashamed and guilty for being self-satisfied, because I judge that quality in other teachers.

Those irritating, perfect teachers demonstrate to students, Once you have “it,” like I do, you don’t need to learn any more. I see this a lot. There is an advertisement I have seen many times in massage magazines over several decades, showing a teacher doing his technique perfectly, and satisfied with his mastery. The photos of that teacher have stuck in my mind over two decades and whenever I see a new ad with that teacher I feel the irritating judgment all over again.

…As I wrote that last sentence I realize some of my photos show me being really knowledgeable, just like those aggravating photos of the other teacher. Again the shame of it! Arragh…

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Teaching melting shoulder rotators in Juneau, Alaska 2004

In my first years teaching, I was trying, and maybe succeeding in perfectly performing the technique. Yay for me, but what about the students? My perfect demonstrations (of things that I had practiced thousands of times) made them feel they could not live up to the technique. Good for me, bad for students.

The irony I am seeing now is, my perfect performances, were at the same time poor performances. They were poor because they showed my arrogance (bad for me) and standards of knowledge and technique impossible for students to suddenly master (bad for students). So I do get to learn after all.

Some of the students from my first classes have kept in touch with me and attended again and again over the years. I wonder if they have seen my teaching improve from a self-satisfied teacher with perfect technique (all about me) to (something more useful for them)?

My poor performances become a good thing when I adjust them. Good for me, when I can be less arrogant. Good for students, when they get the message that, Yes I make mistakes, and you can too. Let’s experiment and be free to make mistakes and then let’s talk about the results because we will improve. The fact I was self-satisfied with my skills, by now is better for having happened that way

Now that I am thinking of this principle I guess it also applies to parenting and being a partner to my most favorite loved one. As I give myself permission to let it be a learning experience, I give others permission to also experiment and gain from mistakes.

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And, There She Was
April 29, 2018, 3:42 pm
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This is from my jogging coach, Stephen. At his suggestion I began jogging at age 35 and have been jogging more and more miles each year since then. Some people spend a lot of effort improving their minds, some improving their bodies, some improving their hearts, and I am learning all are important in balance.

scan0087 Running a high school varsity cross country race. I always ran barefoot.

Many years ago, when I was vegan, I ran sixteen miles nearly every day while living in Phoenix, Arizona. I would run from my home along the city streets until I reached the canals. Most of my run on the canal was solitary. I was at the peak of my physical capability, even better than in high school and college.

One day it was about 118° and extremely high humidity. I thought I would be okay to run as I had found a great way to stay hydrated. I would wear light running shorts and T-shirt along with the best running shoes I could afford. I wore a dual pack of water bottles strapped to my lower back. I would freeze the water bottles overnight, so they remained frozen during the early portion of my run. At the…

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Quincy, a Dachshund Co-Therapist
April 9, 2018, 10:28 pm
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a fun short story of healing from my mentor Stephen

Many people have wonderful stories about their animal companions which are sometimes about how the actions of the cat, dog or another animal saved their life. Here is my story about my animal companion, Quincy, a miniature Dachshund.

Many years ago, I provided psychological counseling through private practice in my office and sometimes in my home. One day, I received a referral from a psychologist at a local school district about a male high school student. The psychologist told me that the individual was very resistant to therapy and refused to communicate in any sessions, so they decided on referring him to me.

In the first session in the home office, I briefly greeted the young high school student who sat on the couch facing me while I sat in the recliner. Quincy chose that day for the first time to climb up on my lap, with my help, and…

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Sweetwater Trail, Saguaro Nat’l Park
January 15, 2018, 7:42 pm
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A wonderful way to do “activism” is by using creative arts like painting! Betina Fink shows an excellent example of doing this in her recent post…

Betina Fink

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Park lands in the western states are being threatened on a daily basis. The natural beauty and stark intensity of desert lands just aren’t important to some people in power. The land is seen as valuable only in terms of what it can give up for money: mining, uranium, rooftops.

Close to my home are the Tucson Mountains, and the Sweetwater Trail, which still has National Park status, but lots of new rooftops dotting the pristine hills. I had a free day and went to walk the washes and animal trails just off the main human trail. Found a spot to set up and do an oil sketch.

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It was so peaceful, yes warm because it has been the warmest recorded temps for this time of year, regardless of what some might say. But no snakes! Just coyotes howling a little in the distance and some birds rustling about.

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Prince of Peace 1985
August 18, 2017, 11:10 pm
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I was just sharing this story with some friends last night and I thought it would be worth sharing to a larger audience..

In 1985 I went to the Prince concert, Purple Rain tour at the Tacoma Dome.

Prince of Peace 1985

The line was long getting in to the Tacoma Dome. As we moved so slowly in the line we noticed a protester carrying a sign. The sign said, “Jesus is the REAL PRINCE of peace.” I thought, that’s not such a bad protest. The guy was probably twenty or thirty feet away from us.

Years later I found out that Prince was a Jehova’s Witness. My friend John followed Prince and told me Prince would actually go out door to door just like all the other Jehova’s Witnesses. I thought that was integrity.

I remember playing a Prince album and noticing there was some garbled message at the end of the LP. I knew that some hard rock bands from the 70s had put messages recorded backwards on their albums. So I unplugged my turntable and ran the turntable backwards with my finger, to hear the message. The message was Prince singing, “I’m so glad / that the Lord / is coming soon! / Coming / Coming / soo–ooon. / Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha.” I thought that was pretty clever and cool, since the 70’s bands had put satanic or demonic messages on their albums, and Prince was doing something like the opposite. Some of his songs spoke of things like “positivity,” which enhanced his value to me.

A few years ago I was telling the story of the protester at the Purple Rain concert, now with the added knowledge that Prince had been a Christian evangelist, which I didn’t know in 1985. And something occurred to me. I think the protester was Prince, in makeup and a costume so we couldn’t recognize him. I think he protested his own concert! I think he protested his own name, “Prince,” or rather he used it as a way to celebrate another Prince whom he revered far more, the Prince of Peace.

I have never read or heard anyone talk about this. But if he stood outside with a sign at the Tacoma concert, he might have done the same at other locations in his Purple Rain tour in 1984-85. Did anyone else notice a protester with this sign?

I drew this drawing to show the picture in my mind of the moment. It wasn’t actually raining. There was a lot of concrete, with the dome in the background. I was wearing a pink long sleeve button down shirt with a skinny purple tie. I had a haircut something like David Bowie on the Ziggy Stardust album cover.



30 % WHOLE Facts
June 2, 2017, 8:56 am
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My wife, writer Traci Moore at her “fun desk” this morning, made me this collage:

30% WHOLE

Facts

generously blended with

Nutrition

roasted and kneaded

born of century old

tradition, faithfully produced

IN A COOL DRY PLACE the Swiss Alps!

Incomparable flavor!

 

I believe this inspired message comes from her training in the “Wild Mind” process that she’s been learning in Alameda and will be teaching in new workshops this summer… traci-moore.com



Sunday Discovery Workshops

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 .. it is important to stay balanced … My wife Traci on her first fallen-log-creek-crossing

Sunday Workshop Series for Personal Discovery 

Upcoming workshop titles for everyone include:

  • Sociodrama
  • Life Lessons from Literature
  • Haiku in Nature
  • Writers Nonjudgmental Critique Group
  • Embracing Your Essence using the Seven Things
  • Exercising Your Intuition and Meeting Your Muse
  • Compassion–the Essence of Buddhism without the Rigmarole–Tong Len, Exchanging Self and Other and Beyond

Dates and times are always forming based on interest and in tune with synchronicity.

Please use the contact form at the bottom if you have questions or suggestions for a workshop including dates.

If you would like to sign up for my Personal Discovery Workshops Newsletter, please use this link: http://eepurl.com/bnuRZ9

  • Location: Patrick Moore Home Office near Tohono Chul Park, near Oracle Road and Ina, NW Tucson, AZ 85704. A small guest-house off the main house, with parking for ten people (photo at bottom).
  • Register by contacting Patrick (scroll down to use contact form at bottom)
  • Class size: 1-10 students.
  • Workshop Style: new information, nonjudgmental, safe environment to challenge yourself to be more than you have been. Solidifies your relationship with your essence through developing compassion, curiosity and other qualities. All workshops are mostly improvised to respond to the unique needs of those present that day.

The titles below are workshops I have taught for years to therapists for their continuing education, that I also allow non-therapists to attend. 

Equal-Power Partnerships at Work and Home

When I was young my Dad always told me, for any two people, one will be dominant. He believed this was true in work (he was a construction worker) and in relationships with women. As an adult I have learned differently. In this workshop we explore how we can be equal with others. This is helpful both for those times we overexert our power and underexert. A relationship with two equals is best described as a partnership. The workshop is improvised to respond to those present, to be relevant for your current interests and needs.

 

Reiki Level One (Shoden) Reiki Practitioner I

Reiki (lecture, hands-on, attunement)

Reiki is a method that activates, or gives you a shortcut, to directing energy–or, the stuff our universe is made of. Reiki is a compassionate method for healing, resolving, embracing and transforming issues and ailments. Reiki is equally effective for oneself, to empower goals, to finesse problems, to learn new skills, resume arrested development, for personal discovery and spiritual growth.

Reiki Level Two (Okuden) Reiki Practitioner II

Reiki (lecture, hands-on, hands-above, attunement)

Includes instructions how to direct energy (or, the stuff our universe is made of) in the past, future and incrementally over any span of time. For those, like me, interested in the fabric of the universe, this is the fun part!

Responding, Not Reacting – Being Nonjudgmental with Others and Yourself

Nobody is perfect. We all react. Still, we may learn to redirect our reactions quickly, so that we don’t blast others, behave impulsively and suffer unnecessary consequences. This is what Mr. Rogers was talking about in his video to congress https://youtu.be/fKy7ljRr0AA?t=4m10s when he tells the lyrics to a song for children about restraining one’s reactions. What can we do instead of reacting? Responding! The alternatives to reacting may include: humor (non-sarcastic), play, funny gestures, expressions, vocalizations or movements, loving, nurturing, improvising, creativity, sharing, vulnerability, patience, presence and compassion. In this workshop we will practice with partners and discuss relevant scenarios, in a fun way.

 

Holistic Healing – a Model of Body & Mind as attributes of Essence

Most of us know someone, or perhaps ourselves, who has faced an illness or behavior that threatens losses of functions, abilities, relationships or life itself. Facing such a harsh scene, many people suddenly question the meaning of life. Who are we? Why am I here? And this can be a good thing, if we engage these questions with curiosity, because the answers are often enlightening, fulfilling and empowering. Each person’s true essence is fully capable, and willing to embrace any challenge this world (or this body) throws at us. In this workshop we discuss life, death and health in a fun, fascinating light.

Expectations – Theirs and Yours

What an enlightening topic: to understand how many of our conflicts in life arise from unmet expectations. We drive ourselves crazy when we expect things of others they do not do, when we expect things of ourselves we do not do, and when others expect things of us we do not want to do! What’s the cure? It doesn’t take long to begin adjusting our expectations to be more realistic, and to begin negotiating kindly with others regarding their expectations of us.

 

Melting Muscles Basic – Prone (hands-on-body, back massage, clothed)

I have taught this method to about a thousand therapists, and a few dozen non-therapists. It is easy to learn and seems like magic when you feel a muscle melting under your hand. You will be receiving as much muscle-melting as you give. You will learn to relax about 15 muscles on the back of the body. Massage tables are provided. Wear sweats, pajamas or yoga clothing as we will be working through clothing (no jeans).

Clothed Massage Relaxes Muscles Better

In this workshop we do some hands-on-body “melting muscles” through clothing, with the recipient face-up on massage tables. We also discuss how and why muscles relax better when the recipient is clothed. If you be interested in starting a clothed-massage clinic, on the model of a network-chiropractic clinic, then this workshop is for you. If you are simply curious about how muscles feel safe and relax, and want to give and receive some nurturing treatment, this workshop is also for you..

Activating Your Intuition  (partner exercises and discussion)

Intuition is not magical, it is simply enhanced perception. This workshop is less about how intuition works, and more about practicing and improving our skills. Since intuition is natural, we don’t have to learn how to do it, only to recall how to do it. Once we are doing it we practice turning it off again, so that we become clearer about how to activate and deactivate intuition. Fun exercises including games, followed by discussion.

How Energy Draws Clients to your Business

Does your job rely at all on people being satisfied by what you do? Are you an artist, writer or musician? Did you know that your energy has a lot to do with how others will respond to your services and offerings? This workshop discusses the ways energy (or, the stuff this universe is made of) influences others and ourselves, and how we influence energy with our thoughts, interpretations and behaviors.

Exercising Naturally – how Oxygen Decreases Muscle Soreness, Improves Health & Mood

We start the day with a one-hour walk (or longer depending on participants) during which we begin to discuss how and why exercise benefits us so much. The emphasis is on creating a healthy relationship with exercise, that develops and grows more friendly over a lifetime.

 

The Philosophy of Ethics from Plato to Spinoza  

A fun way for professionals to get their “professional ethics” hours.

Also a fun way to learn about the history of ethics. Why think of others? Why not just take every advantage you can? Learn how Plato, Boethius and others answered these questions and see if their answers make any sense to you. While we are at it, we may learn “how to make life worth living.”

Breathing Naturally – from Deliberate Exhalation to Zen Meditation

Somehow, humans have forgotten the natural way to breathe that we did as children. Because we avoid exhaling, our blood becomes more acidic, we age faster, are more grumpy and sore. First we learn to deliberately exhale a little more, then we learn how to breathe more and more naturally, without controlling. You will also learn how gas exchanges at the lungs and how oxygen is transported throughout your body. With more oxygen you will be more alert, calmer, clearer, with more energy, vitality and endurance.

 

Muscle Guarding as Communication – Learning the Nonverbal Language of Muscles —  The Muscle Whisperer Class

Have you seen the movie, The Horse Whisperer? Have you seen The Truth about Cats & Dogs? How would you like to understand the language of human muscles? How would you like to talk directly with the subconscious, so that you can figure out why it is making the muscles achey, tight & sore? What if you could speak to the muscles in their own language, so they would agree to relax and play nice?

Reiki Level Three (Shinpiden or Shinpiden) Reiki Master PLUS Reiki Teacher Skills – How to Maximize Your Reiki Students’ Confidence and Effectiveness (Teacher Training)

 

 

 

 

The above are titles I have been teaching to therapists for years, that I allow non-therapists to also attend.

Is there a topic you would like to learn more about? Please let me know in the contact form below. In another post I will list a dozen more ideas I have for new workshops that interest me.

Warmly, Patrick

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